Children are not born controlling their emotions, that is why it is very important that the adult has an active role in the development of children’s skills so that they are capable of having good self-regulation, resistance and adaptation to change, a good concept of themselves, good nutrition for mental health and wellness.
Children need adults to manage their emotions
Children need experiences to be able to understand their needs, to have their needs met and for the adult to be aware of the care they must be given. This will give children more opportunities to develop a positive sense of self, manage their emotions, and get along with themselves and with others. When children have positive experiences they are more likely to be mentally healthier and have better relationships with others. This contributes to them also having better feelings of satisfaction, happiness and general success in life.
Parents and caregivers are responsible for children to develop emotional skills, helping to better manage emotions and behavior, starting with themselves. This includes gently guiding children’s learning through different measures and strategies to help them achieve what they could not achieve by doing on their own. Children learn self-control and emotional expression through the example and guidance of the adult. They will learn appropriate behavior by experimenting and seeing how other people handle their emotions and those of their own experiences, and also how others behave with them.
Stressful emotions and experiences
Parents and caregivers can help children cope with stressful experiences. For example, when a child feels insecure or scared, you can show him how to become calm and meet his needs. Children who have consistently had warm and sensitive care will be able to develop a sense of security and trust towards the caregiver because they will know that they will be able to reach out to them when they need emotional support after exploring the environment. This will help children feel less stressed and provide them with a great sense of security, confidence, and predictability that are important to children’s development and sense of identity.
Warm attention, trust, and sensitivity towards children is what allows them to respond appropriately to emotions and internalize a positive view of themselves and others. Learn appropriate behavior and develop concern and understanding with others. Children who are helped to manage their feelings will gradually learn to do so on their own.
Over time children become more independent, also with the management of their emotions in different situations. However, it is important for children to learn that whenever necessary they should resort to seeking support and guidance, especially in times of greatest stress. Seeking help is not a weak one, it is an important coping skill that will last a lifetime and make you stronger.
When children learn to trust others to help them, they will feel more secure and calm because human beings are social beings. This will enable them to grow and develop and create positive experiences essential to their mental health and to enjoy a well-being and quality of life. When adults help children to understand their emotions, they will be helping them to be resilient and to cope with the anguish that they will encounter sometimes and irretrievably during the journey of life. They will have a sense of control and optimism about what they are capable of and about their actual capabilities.